People have been interested in love since Plato or earlier, but there
has long been resistance to defining love. Some feel they know instinctively
what love is - so why bother to define it? Other dare not try to try and
unlock loves secrets for fear its magical mystery would be lost
In recent years social scientists have been taking a closer look at love
and research has produced some interesting findings. One theory "The Triangle
Theory" suggests that love can be divided into three components: intimacy,
passion and commitment and these components can be further broken down into
three stages: general, individual, and personal.
Many studies on love include investigations into the different types
of love, and various differences in the way men and women express love. These
studies have been helpful in understanding love. For instance, It has been
demonstrated in test results that women lean toward love based on friendship
and shared interests, and that women admit more than men to suffering from
jealous or dependent love.
Generally, love is thought of in terms of either romance or companionship.
Case studies revealed: "The better the relationship, the more one will go
to the subsequent level of Intimacy". Those desiring "True Love" or Intimacy
in love will need to be open-minded, and willing to explore loves many parts
and facets that make up complete love.
Employing terminology from Greek and Latin, I will attempt to explain
what Some of the pieces of love are. It is important that you understand
it is possible to love with partial love (not all the parts) and you can
experience love that is very deep in many ways, but it is never complete
love unless all the parts make it whole.
Eros: Sexual Love. Physical Love evoked because of Physical
Attraction or an expression of love, physically.
Ludis: Flirtatious, Teasing Love. This type
of love is associated with a teen-age kind of love. Game playing often resulting
in a fleeting type of quick romance. Ludis is an outward expression of love.
It is urging in a tantalizing way to excite another without intending to
satisfy their desire aroused. Furthermore, is most often intended to arouse
another to physical attraction, which can lead to Eros "sexual Love". It
is not the same as to woo or embrace in love.
Philo: Brotherly Love. Love that is generated
and/or related because of a common bond. Love that is banded together in
unity and cooperation, with like interests and for mutual benefit. Love working
toward a common goal.
Storge: Friendship Love. Friendship love, involving
respect and concern for another persons interest. This love contains
more companionship than excitement. Its root is in: "To Store Up".
Pragma: Logical Love. This is for people who worry whether
their partner wood be a good parent. It is the kind of love that is based
on shared interests and common backgrounds. This love is influenced by a
system of principles, and the application of reason, and deductions to common
experiences that describe and define relationships among propositions in
terms of implications, contradictions, and contrariety. It is an expectant
love that is accustomed to its own doctrine and theory. Pragma Love
is: Unification though common goals and interests.
Mania: Smothering Love. Possessive, dependent,
jealous love. Mania is a trademark of "Fatal Attraction love ." It is a mentally
excited, excessive and persistent love. This type of love is like an obsession
or craving. It can lead to exaggerated feelings and excessiveness.
Agape: Divine Love. Self-sacrificing love.
Altruistic love that is experienced by people willing to do things for another
person with no expectations. Precious, beloved, and esteemed love.
It has been the finding of many tests that women have a greater tendency
toward storge and pragma love. Women identify more with mania love, or at
least more willing to admit those traits than men.
Other researchers have examined the physiology of love and have found
that parent-child attachments affect our adult love relationships and our
beliefs about love. Love can be alive and passionate with intense affection,
attraction, and deep devotion between people or it can be a smattered, hollow,
unappreciated, worthless word to those who have never enjoy complete love..